Some things I’ve read lately remind me of one if the things I’ve learnt from “the chimp paradox!”
Don’t “wade thru treacle!” You mean well but taking on other people’s problems is a key for depression, according to what I read. Especially if you aren’t able to bring the problem to a close.
“You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink.” Comes to mind. If they aren’t ready to respond they will not drink. But equally you need to drink to.
Those of you who follow me via from hell to eternity, know most of this already, I started my blog in Jan 2015 as a method of recognising my anxieties, and avoiding the impending black dog, depression.
The initial steps I took were to read the chimp paradox by Dr Stephen Peters and follow the brilliant Emma Triplett who’s book Stepping out of the clouds I’m still reading. Between the 2 I released the old positive me however as a result I became curious about psychology and sociology.
Sociology opened my mind to realms of the bourgeoisie, petit-bourgeoisie,prolateriat and lumpen-proletariat and the benefits and pit falls of many of my social attitudes.
Both Emma and the chimp paradox opened my mind to the power of a positive mind. I cannot explain how powerful a positive statement is, something as simple as “I can” or “I will” as opposed to the more negative statements and excuses I could come up with.
As I blogged Emma pointed out that my face was changing, I was smiling more, which I always used too.
I learned strategies to deal with things, and how to quiet my chimp, without arm wrestling him.
But all this peaked my interest if I could do this for myself, could I actually do it as a career and with some of my other experiences I believe I can if I learn the way.